Communication and performance wins this week

This is Amerie (and me, and Amerie’s mum). Amerie is, among other accolades, the teenager who introduced me to one of my favourite thriller writers. Which felt like a bit of a reward from the universe for always pushing for my under-eighteen clients to pick subjects they love for their public speaking assignments. It’s a wonderful way of remembering life is not about guessing the right answer; it’s about discovering your own. So that’s how I discovered Alice Feeney – and why we’re pictured at her event at Waterstones Piccadilly, which turned out to be one of the most supportive and inspiring author talks I’ve ever seen – and also why, yesterday, I got the news Amerie achieved a distinction along with her Gold Medal in Speaking in Public. 

Communication, performance, authenticity, confidence

I met Amerie as a six-year-old. Our coaching was nominally about reciting poems and prose for LAMDA Exams, but really it was about what all coaching is about: true confidence. Which doesn’t mean being the loudest person in the room; it means learning to listen to who you truly are. 

Most of you reading this newsletter – whether you’re a business and personal coaching client, the parent/guardian of one of my under-eighteen clients, or a member of the Writers’ Gym – know what comes out through our voice begins in our mindset. The writing and speaking skills Amerie developed through our sessions mean she’ll not only know how to express herself, but know the importance of making sure it’s her true self she’s expressing. Writing and speaking, the world’s most transferable life skills, will be part of literally any job or career, every conversation. Creative confidence is a huge investment in being who you are and creating your life as a true reflection of who you are and what you want to be.

I could not be more proud of you, Amerie. Here’s to whatever future you choose to create. 

Explore coaching for business and personal life here.

Explore coaching for under-eighteens here.

Join me online…

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm, Tuesday 17 June
This friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm, Wednesday 18 June
Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm, Tuesday 15 July
This friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

Coming up in London…

Powerful Fiction and Memoir: 21 June to 12 July at Olympic Studios

Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. My four sessions at the legendary Olympic Studios explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. If you are a member of Olympic Studios or the Writers’ Gym and do not have your discount code, please email info@rachelknightley.comBook here.

Write, Sip, Connect at the Century Club, Soho | 7pm-8.30pm, Friday 27 June
An evening workshop with cocktails, where creativity meets confidence in a unique blend of writing exercises, discussion, and networking. Whether you’re an experienced writer, just starting out, or simply curious about the craft, this event is designed to boost your word count, confidence, and connections—all in a relaxed and welcoming space. Book here.

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am, Friday 4 July
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art: www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership: thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

Why tastes, scents and colours aren’t a waste of our money or time

During one or other of the lockdowns, I made myself a promise: I would never again buy a drink I didn’t want, or the drink I thought I was supposed to want in any given situation.

I posted a picture of mine and my friend’s cocktails on Instagram on Saturday because a) they were pretty.

But really I posted because b) I want to model the behaviour of investing in the temporary.

Part of the intrinsic pleasure in pretty drinks is they tend to be those I share with friends (at least, friends also like pretty drinks). They represent catching up, connection. They represent being in the moment. Being present. A pocket of slower time within the rush.

Whatever we’re doing, we do better when we take the time to step back into the now, unapologetically.

They’re this reminder to me: 

Take the moments. Don’t wait to have finished the next job to celebrate being where – and who – you are already, right now.

Coming up online…

Writing Magic Realism: Bringing the Magic to Life | 1pm-2.30pm, Tuesday 10 June
Tour through magic realist texts, and enjoy creative confidence building exercises to master these techniques and concepts, and make them your own. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm, Wednesday 11 June
Hosted by Writers’ Gym staff member, Bella Barbieri. Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm, Tuesday 17 June
Adding to our programme of regular workouts at the Writers’ Gym, this friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

The Writing Room is members-only through June, while I’m away for work on Monday mornings. However, we’ll be introducing weekly membership soon so if you’d like to hear about that now, just ask thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

Coming up in London…

Powerful Fiction and Memoir: 21 June to 12 July at Olympic Studios

Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. My four sessions at the legendary Olympic Studios explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. Book here.

If you are a member of Olympic Studios or the Writers’ Gym and do not have your discount code, please email info@rachelknightley.com

Powerful Fiction and Memoir (4-week course) | 2-3.30pm, Saturday 21 June
Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. Join me at the legendary Olympic Studios to explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. Click here.

Green Ink Sponsored Write for Macmillan Cancer Support

Every year, a team of published authors and developing writers in the Writers’ Gym(including people who are both) come together to write on a theme inspired by Macmillan Cancer Support’s mission: quality of life for everyone affected by cancer. What happens is this: Writers donate a day of time. They’re not sponsored by their word count. They are sponsored for their time. There’s no obligation of any kind because a writing prompt is a diving board, not a dive (this was the event that inspired that First Draft Commandment in Your Creative Writing Toolkit. Other authors’ Sponsored Write pieces have become new books and other things, after the six-month world-exclusive period where what we write belongs solely to our readers: anybody who sponsors us on this page). Click any of the links to visit the page, and please share the full link with friends, family, followers and whoever is next to you at the bus stop, because literally every donation counts (and gets you an exclusive digital anthology, 48 hours after the writing day ends): https://www.justgiving.com/page/somewhere-thats-green

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art: www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership: thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

…and other good things in June

I’m a sucker for the beginning of a month. Any month, really, though Spring probably has the edge. It’s partly thanks to my grandfather’s desk calendar, which lives beside me on my desk and makes a particularly pleasing click as you change date, or whir as you scroll (left cog) through the months and (right cog) through the days. Each month begins not with a ‘1’ but with a visual drum roll:

Turn top towards yourself.

Click.

Turn slowly.

Click.

Change month.

Click.

Then the ‘1’ appears and time has officially started moving. 

And, like a clean journal page (or, even better, the new sheet of stickers each time I start a new edition of my favourite journal), I promise myself I will be each morning from now on. Not journalling on and off, always realising how much better my mental health and productivity is on days when and do than when I don’t, but every day.

I’m not really looking success in the perfectionist, absolute-consistent-progress-or-I- get-to-waste-energy-berating-myself form. Real success is noticing when (not if) my practice falls off, noticing (not judging) why and seeing what makes me enjoy climbing back on. That’s where the real progress and the real joy is. 

Speaking of joy, especially the kind that comes from knowing who you are and learning how to empower yourself, that’s exactly why I’m so enormously proud of Writers’ Gym member Stacey Warner. Stacey’s non-fiction piece, Autistic Joy, has been Commended in the South Warwickshire Literary Festival:

“It explores the moments up until diagnosis and how diagnosis led me to holding deep gratitude for how much I get to love things,” Stacey told us in our members’ chat group, “and the other positives of diagnosis. I wanted to write something that highlights the way autism was sneakily always there but wanted something that centred joy, not just the struggle – thought those are valid too.”

It’s not just Stacey’s result that has me beaming as I write this. It’s the whole year preceding it. I’ve witnessed Stacey taking the opportunities for creative confidence building, personal reflection, goal-setting and habit-forming that makes time and space for writing (and whatever ignites joy in life) off the pedestal and into the routine. Instead of waiting to feel worthy, we live our lives now. And the time to start can always be today. 

Turn slowly… 

Change month…

Powerful Fiction and Memoir: 21 June to 12 July at Olympic Studios

Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. My four sessions at the legendary Olympic Studios explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. Book here.

If you are a member of Olympic Studios or the Writers’ Gym and do not have your discount code, please email info@rachelknightley.com

Coming up online…

Writing Magic Realism: Politics, Morals and Magic | 1pm-2.30pm, Tuesday 3 June
Tour through magic realist texts, and enjoy creative confidence building exercises to master these techniques and concepts, and make them your own. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm, Wednesday 4 June
Hosted by Writers’ Gym staff member, Bella Barbieri. Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm, Tuesday 17 June
Adding to our programme of regular workouts at the Writers’ Gym, this friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

The Writing Room is going to be members-only through June, while I’m away for work on Monday mornings. However, we’ll be introducing weekly membership soon so if you’d like to hear about that now, just ask thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

and in London…

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am, Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Powerful Fiction and Memoir (4-week course) | 2-3.30pm, Saturday 21 June
Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. Join me at the legendary Olympic Studios to explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. Click here.

Green Ink Sponsored Write has begun

Every year, a team of published authors and developing writers in the Writers’ Gym(including people who are both) come together to write on a theme inspired by Macmillan Cancer Support’s mission: quality of life for everyone affected by cancer. What happens is this: Writers donate a day of time. They’re not sponsored by their word count. They are sponsored for their time. There’s no obligation of any kind because a writing prompt is a diving board, not a dive (this was the event that inspired that First Draft Commandment in Your Creative Writing Toolkit. Other authors’ Sponsored Write pieces have become new books and other things, after the six-month world-exclusive period where what we write belongs solely to our readers: anybody who sponsors us on this page). Click any of the links to visit the page, and please share the full link with friends, family, followers and whoever is next to you at the bus stop, because literally every donation counts (and gets you an exclusive digital anthology, 48 hours after the writing day ends):

https://www.justgiving.com/page/somewhere-thats-green

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art: www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership: thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

Sponsored Write 2025 for Macmillan Cancer Support

Thank you Rhianna Pratchett for our brilliant title and Elspeth Hannen for our beautiful cover image: this year’s Green Ink Sponsored Write for Macmillan Cancer Support is a world I truly cannot wait to explore. 

But I have to wait – because it’s a sponsored write, so it’s strictly 48 hours from creation to publication!

What is a Sponsored Write?

Every year, a team of published authors and developing writers in the Writers’ Gym(including people who are both) come together to write on a theme inspired by Macmillan Cancer Support’s mission: quality of life for everyone affected by cancer. 

There’s usually something green in the title, green being Macmillan’s colour – and why the Writers’ Gym was originally Green Ink Writers’ Gym. Macmillan was the chosen charity of my friend Sophie Porter (1982-2007) and, eighteen later, Green Ink Sponsored Write is an established yearly event. I also write in memory of my grandfather, Abraham Banks, and my uncles, David and Jeremy Banks. 

For 2025, our title, created by Rhianna Pratchett, is:

Somewhere That’s Green: Paradises, Utopias and Happy Places

What happens is this: 

Writers donate a day of time. They’re not sponsored by their word count. They are sponsored for their time. There’s no obligation of any kind because a writing prompt is a diving board, not a dive (this was the event that inspired that First Draft Commandment in Your Creative Writing Toolkit. Other authors’ Sponsored Write pieces have become new books and other things, after the six-month world-exclusive period where what we write belongs solely to our readers: anybody who sponsors us on this page).

By using the sponsorship page, we help Macmillan directly and save them a load of admin so they can get on with what they are here for: 

helping everyone affected by cancer.

Click any of the links to visit the page, and please share the full link with friends, family, followers and whoever is next to you at the bus stop, because literally every donation counts (and gets you an exclusive digital anthology, 48 hours after the writing day ends):

https://www.justgiving.com/page/somewhere-thats-green

Join me at Olympic Studios, southwest London, to develop your writing and creative confidence Saturdays 21 June, 28 June, 5 July and 12 July:

This Week…

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm, Monday 26 May
No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Click here.

Fiction and Memoir Writing | Riverside Studios 7-8.30pm, Monday 26 May
All the inspiration, support and techniques you need to weave initial ideas into fully realised stories. Click here.

Writing Magic Realism: Poetry, Magic and Reality | 1pm-2.30pm, Tuesday 27 May
Tour through magic realist texts, and enjoy creative confidence building exercises to master these techniques and concepts, and make them your own. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm, Wednesday 28 May
Hosted by Writers’ Gym staff member, Bella Barbieri. Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 4.30pm-7pm, Thursday 29 May
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

Coming soon…

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am, Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm, Tuesday 17 June
Adding to our programme of regular workouts at the Writers’ Gym, this friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

Powerful Fiction and Memoir (4-week course) | 2-3.30pm, Saturday 21 June
Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. Join me at the legendary Olympic Studios to explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. Click here.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art: www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership: thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

Writer or reader, friend or family: we want connection, not perfection.

A very lovely public speaking coaching client of mine stopped in the middle of their speech this week. They’d made a small error with the words they’d prepared. When I encouraged them to continue, they did. But the enthusiasm, the involvement in the subject they loved, had gone. 

After we’d rehearsed the rest, I mentioned I’d noticed a drop in involvement. I asked them to share what had gone through their head at the time. 

They said that although they understood what I mean when I say the words aren’t as important as the meaning – so, if a sentence goes off track, we think about what we mean and find a way through to the next – they didn’t believe they could be happy with the speech if the words were ‘wrong’. 

‘So,’ I asked, ‘unless every word you say is exactly the one you prepared, you stop connecting with the audience?’

They thought about this, and I saw them seeing the irony. After all, our words are there because of the audience. If us falling short of a standard only we can see is more real to us than our audience relationship – we’re not really there for the audience at all. 

‘Perfect’ was Never on the Menu

When we rehearsed the speech again, and when my client inevitably (because humans aren’t answerphones and authentic speeches are always slightly different each time) said words in a different order to what they’d prepared, each wobble became an opportunity to tighten their focus on the audience and strengthen their connection as a result. They looked deeper into their mental image of who the audience were and why this mattered for them. Their facial expression and body language were lighter. They were remembering what they loved and why they believed their words belonged in the world. Instead of mentally and emotionally looking back over their shoulder at what was ‘wrong’, they gave a unique and authentic delivery, especially for who it was meant for. 

Writer or reader, friend or family, audience member or fellow performer, we’ll take connection over perfection any day. Trying to show up for us as perfect is no good to us at all. Choose vulnerability over perfection, and we’ll know we can too.

Join me at Olympic Studios, southwest London, to develop your writing and creative confidence Saturdays 21 June, 28 June, 5 July and 12 July:

This Week…

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm Monday 19 May
No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Click here.

Fiction and Memoir Writing | Riverside Studios 7-8.30pm Monday 19 May
All the inspiration, support and techniques you need to weave initial ideas into fully realised stories. Click here.

Writing Magic Realism: Visualising Magic Realism | 1pm-2.30pm Tuesday 20 May
Tour through magic realist texts, and enjoy creative confidence building exercises to master these techniques and concepts, and make them your own. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm Wednesday 21 May
Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 6-7pm Thursday 22 May
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

Coming soon…

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am, Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm, Tuesday 17 June
Adding to our programme of regular workouts at the Writers’ Gym, this friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

Powerful Fiction and Memoir (4-week course) | 2-3.30pm, Saturday 21 June
Truthful, powerful writing goes so much deeper than whether or not a story ‘really happened’. Join me at the legendary Olympic Studios to explore the tools and techniques of powerful prose. Writers of all levels of experience will build creative confidence, explore and express their unique memory and imagination and create truthful, compelling memoir and fiction. Click here.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art: www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership: thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

Last Thursday on Instagram I posted three fish, and the words Aim to be interested, not interesting. The fish are a reference to David Lynch and curiosity. The words started life as one of five First Draft Commandments in Your Creative Writing Toolkit. They’ve now also become the name of the first week of a six-week course I’m piloting at Roehampton University in creative confidence for writing and speaking (if you’re a paid subscriber you’ll receive Week 1 next week). Something quite beautiful happened in the first few minutes and that’s why I want to tell you about them.

After I’d introduced myself, I handed everybody an invisible magic wand and requested they be as selfish as possible. What do you most want from today? What do you most want me to be able to give you? 

One of the answers was about writer’s block: I‘ve got this idea; I’ve wanted to write it for ages; nothing’s happening.

Another was about introductions: I’ve got to go to interviews. I want to make a good impression. How do I do that?

The answer to both these questions was modelled before I even began by one of the people who’d asked. 

As I’d introduced myself and the course, talking about what happy, authentic audience relationships can feel like (the connection between writer/speaker and reader/watcher/listener; how the more we feel it’s a relationship the more it becomes one), I’d noticed such a lovely energy as one particular student sat listening. The clingfilm of nervousness, frozen-over distance when he came into the room had peeled off. Safe in the audience, unselfconsciously enjoying hearing what I was saying, he was himself. And I saw him, and I grew in confidence as he saw me. It was an exchange of energy. It made him better at what he needed to do and me better at what I needed to do.

So I told them what that felt like for me, and for any speaker z- whether the audience ever know the difference they’re making or not. 

Same with interviews, first dates – and blank pages. You don’t have to show up perfect. Perfect was never on the menu.

When we want to make a good impression, we do get creative in one reliable way: anxiety. Mentally detailed stories of what might happen – so clear to us we convince ourselves they’re going to happen or already are happening – in full technicolour: all the reasons we’re unworthy and someone else would be better. 

We can take the fear at face value; misread it as a signal we shouldn’t or don’t deserve to be here. Or we can lean into the curiosity. 

All anyone wants from you – interviewer, date, reader, viewer, listener – is honest attention. We’ve always got two choices: fear curiosity. We can take the fear at face value; misread it as a signal we shouldn’t or don’t deserve to be here. Or we can lean into the curiosity. What about this situation speaks to me. What do I really want? What is it that it speaks to in me? How and to whom do I say so?

When we can bring ourselves to focus on curiosity about what we think and feel, who we are and want to grow to be – we look beyond what do they think of my hair, what if they think I’m stupid, what if they think I’m not good enough and realise the other person isn’t dwelling on any of those things. They’re just trying to find out about us, and our world, same as we’re wondering about theirs. We create the world as we want it to be by believing in it, investing in it, taking the first conversational step towards it. By offering authenticity, we create the circumstances where we get curiosity back. 

That’s what I mean by aiming to be interested, not interesting. You don’t need to impress us; you don’t need to convince us of anything. You need to be present, in all your imperfection and all your curiosity. 

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Events this week…

(If you’re not in the UK, find your timezone here.)

Our next Writing Workout and Feedback is Tuesday 17 June. But first…

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm Monday 12 May
No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Free to everyone on my mailing list (if you’re reading this, that’s you!). Click here.

Writing Magic Realism: Magic Realism in Fiction | 1pm-2.30pm Tuesday 13 May
Tour through magic realist texts, and enjoy creative confidence building exercises to master these techniques and concepts, and make them your own. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm Wednesday 14 May
Quality writing time and excellent company! Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 6-7pm Thursday 15 May
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

Monthly Writing Workout | 6.30-7.30pm Tuesday 27 May 
Grab a workout at the Writers’ Gym. Creative exercises, supportive discussion, specific tips and techniques for the writer you are. A guaranteed boost to your knowledge, enthusiasm, confidence and your word-count! Click here.

Coming soon…

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 20-11.30am Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback | 6-7.30pm Tuesday 17 June
Adding to our programme of regular workouts at the Writers’ Gym, this friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here. 

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art. www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership at thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

It’s rare to meet a freelance writer who’s in it for the pitching. Writing? Sure. Putting yourself on the line to say how great your idea is and why you’re the person out there to write it? Every-muscle-in-the-body-tensingly horrible. 

Except when, occasionally, it isn’t. 

I have a piece in one of my favourite magazines this week. That one was easy to pitch. 

Because I love the magazine? No, that’s as likely to make me more self-conscious and self-critical. 

Because of my iron self-confidence? Hahahahahahahahaha! No. 

Because I’m getting used to pitching? Mmm… maybe, a bit, but no, that’s not why.

It’s because I was really ****ing angry.

The Magic Trick, Part 1: Knowing Something Needs to Be Said 

Creative Confidence: Coaching for Writers in the current issue of Writing Magazine is there because of something another writer – one of their regulars – said in print a year or so ago (because – spoiler alert for what reality’s really got up its sleeve for you when you’re pitching – even when it goes well, that can be how long between writing the words and seeing them in print). What I was angry about was that regular columnist stated that writing coaching was ‘mostly teaching’. 

When done badly or carelessly, that may be true. 

But professional coaching isn’t teaching. Teaching is the one-way imparting of knowledge. Coaching is a thinking partnership. As my client, you are the expert on you. I am your brain’s external hard drive, a symathetic provocateur adjusting the level of challenge to what’s right for you and always, always based on your objectives: partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential, as my union, The International Coaching Federation, has it.

The editor of Writing Magazine is, in my e-experience, a very nice person. But even if that weren’t true, my pitch would still have been friendly. It would be on the side of the person I’m writing to. Because anger, when used helpfully, is about achieving the change that’s needed in the world, not simply relieving the emotion of anger. It’s not about you blasting at someone, it’s about you making the change the world deserves; that moves us all in the right direction. 

The Magic Trick, Part 2: Knowing It’s Up to You to Say It

Next time pitching feels too much like putting yourself on the line, make a list of things that annoy you. Or make you feel trapped or misrepresented or unheard. 

If someone were going to pay you to really illustrate one of those, which would you want it to be? 

What would your piece be saying? Who to? What would it be asking? Of whom?

Write it.

For yourself first. 

Then edit and rewrite it, for all of us.

Because your truth (even if it’s in a year or so) has a place in the slightly-better world it’s up to all of us to create.

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Come and Write This Week

(If you’re not in the UK, find your timezone here.)

Our next Writing Workout and Feedback is Tuesday 17 June. But first…

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm Monday 5 May
Free for everyone on my mailing list (if you’re reading this, that’s you!). No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Click here.

Writing Magic Realism | 1pm-2.30pm Tuesday 6 May
From literary and genre fiction to poetry, film and TV, magic realism expresses a deeper truth to the everyday. It lets our themes and emotions take physical form, and allows the worlds we live in within our own minds to become real places in the worlds we create. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm Wednesday 7 May
Hosted by Writers’ Gym staff member, Bella Barbieri. Quality writing time and excellent company! Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated.Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 6-7pm Thursday 8 May
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

Monthly Writing Workout | 6.30-7.30pm Tuesday 27 May 
Grab a workout at the Writers’ Gym. Creative exercises, supportive discussion, specific tips and techniques for the writer you are. A guaranteed boost to your knowledge, enthusiasm, confidence and your word-count! Click here.

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 20-11.30am Friday 6 June
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art. www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership at thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

Half my life ago, aged twenty-one and working backstage at a fringe theatre in London, I decided to “just get over” my phobia about being locked in things. 

I deliberately left my mobile phone (still a relatively new reassurance in 2003) in the theatre upstairs, while I went downstairs to the pub toilets.

I’ll skip over what you’ll already have guessed happened: the screaming; being able to see my own increasingly terrified face in the full-length mirror as I tried to be heard. I’ll also skip over finally being chainsawed out, and the subsequent discovery that the lock had fused in the heat.

None of this is the point. Not anymore, at least.

The point for me today is how I got something far better than what I thought I wanted.

I thought I wanted to “just get over” a fear. Instead, the experience meant I changed strategy. I gave myself the gift of unapologetic communication.

I think communicating my feelings and needs has served me a lot better in my career and personal life than blaming myself for being scared and trying to suppress it would have done.

All my close friends and family, many clients and just about every staff member at anywhere I run workshops – including Write Sip Connect at The Century Club, Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios and Fiction and Memoir Writing at Riverside Studios– know I’m scared of locks. Telling everyone I’m scared and knowing someone will come and find me if I’m not back in a few minutes is a calmer, happier reality than ‘just getting over it’. In accepting the reassurance and stories I get in return for sharing this vulnerability, I get connection. 

Sometimes fear is just fear. Sometimes it’s a muse in disguise.

What this experience also means now is that, when published and unpublished, beginner and experienced writers share their fear of feedback with me during our writing workout last week, I absolutely get it. 

Some of them take that fear to mean they’re not ready. 

But that suggests there’s such a thing as ‘ready’.

We don’t fear things that don’t matter to us. 

When we listen to what we fear – in my case, being unheard, or unable to connect – which ironically is exactly what my new way of dealing with the fear meant I get more of – we can also hear what we want.

In art and in life.

Good writing isn’t perfect. It’s honest. 

It comes from writers who aren’t keeping their readers at arm’s length by telling them what to think, the way I wanted to tell my brain to ‘just get over it’. They’re not suppressing. They’re connecting. They’re trusting the reader and building a connection as a result.

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am Friday 2 May 
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Come and Write This Week

(If you’re not in the UK, find your timezone here.)

Our next Writing Workout and Feedback is Tuesday 17 June. But first…

Writers’ Gym Mini-Episodes: Every Monday, Every Podcast Platform
Between series, we’re sharing weekly mini-episodes on writing and creative confidence building. Find us wherever you get your podcasts. Click here.

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm Monday 28 April
Free for everyone on my mailing list (if you’re reading this, that’s you!). No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Click here.

Fiction and Memoir Writing | Riverside Studios 7-8.30pm Monday 28 April
All the inspiration, support and techniques you need to weave initial ideas into fully realised stories. Dr Rachel’s prose-writing sessions are suitable for anyone over the age of 18. Whether you’re working on a story, novel or non-fiction, want some creative inspiration, or whether you’re intrigued by the idea of writing and want a creative outlet, this is the place to discover and develop your ideas and your voice. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm Wednesday 30 April 
Quality writing time and excellent company! Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 6-7pm Thursday 1 May
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios, Barnes | 10-11.30am Friday 2 May 
Grow your connections, build motivation and unlock inspiration in this creative networking event with a difference. Dr Rachel’s gently powerful facilitation provides a space to turn curiosity into creativity, wherever you are in your writing journey. Click here.

Write, Sip, Connect at the Century Club | 7-8.30pm Friday 2 May 
Join us for an evening workshop with cocktails, where creativity meets confidence in a unique blend of writing exercises, discussion, and networking. Whether you’re an experienced writer, just starting out, or simply curious about the craft, this event is designed to boost your word count, confidence, and connections—all in a relaxed and welcoming space. Click here.

Writing Magic Realism | 1pm-2.30pm Tuesday 6 May
From literary and genre fiction to poetry, film and TV, magic realism expresses a deeper truth to the everyday. It lets our themes and emotions take physical form, and allows the worlds we live in within our own minds to become real places in the worlds we create. Click here.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art. www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership at thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

In the time between Writers’ Gym podcast series, I’m releasing mini-episodes on aspects of writing and creative confidence that come up for members and clients. 

No names, of course, but each one results in someone who isn’t the person (or usually people) who inspired it saying, ‘I felt you were talking directly to me’.

Here’s why.

In a week that reminds us how much fear there is around who we are and who we have the right to be, I was asked at my Riverscribes Fiction and Memoir workshop why I thought imagination belonged on the ‘artist palette’ of a memoir writer as much as a writer of fiction. After all, memoir is things that happened to us. What’s imagination got to do with it?

It’s not the first time I’ve been asked, but I try to treat it like it is. 

Every writer has a unique paint palette of memory, imagination, observations and questions about the world and our place in it. 

Each is unique to that writer, therefore each combination we mix from them even more so.

Yet, when literal paint is being brought on a palette to a blank canvas, no painter stops themselves mixing their colours with ‘I can’t possibly use that shade, my mum/friend/grandparent/teacher would be angry’ or ‘X would see this colour differently’ or ‘I don’t have the right to use this one’. 

Empathy creates people we’ve never met and whose lives may look very unlike our own saying ‘I felt like you knew what it was like to be me’.

Last week, I talked about why we write and why we read: not objective truth, but subjective truth. To feel what it’s like to be another person. To see each other in the dark. Because here’s the thing about true storytelling: we’re being vulnerable with our own truth. Putting the reader in the sensory details and the physical and emotional internal reality in our head. Imagination creates empathy. Empathy creates people we’ve never met and whose lives may look very unlike our own saying ‘I felt like you knew what it was like to be me’. Whether that’s fiction or memoir, it takes vulnerability. Vulnerability is strength. It can be hard to prioritise vulnerability over defence mechanisms. It can be hard to reveal the complexity, the messiness of who we truly are. Because the world hasn’t always told us that’s okay, let alone healthy and positive.

It is healthy and positive. Not just for discovering who characters are on the page. For giving ourselves permission to show up off the page.

We’re not so different, any of us, ever. So let’s all do what we can to have each other’s backs on all our paths to becoming our true, full, complex and multitudinous, selves.

Writing Magic Realism with Dr Rachel Knightley and Alex Davis Events starts Tuesday 6 May

Come and Write This Week

(If you’re not in the UK, find your timezone here.)

Writers’ Gym Mini-Episodes: Every Monday, Every Podcast Platform
Between series, we’re sharing weekly mini-episodes on writing and creative confidence building. Find us wherever you get your podcasts. Click here.

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm Monday 21 April
Free for everyone on my mailing list (if you’re reading this, that’s you!). No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Click here.

Writing Workout and Feedback Workshop | 6-7.30pm Tuesday 22 April
Adding to our programme of regular workouts at the Writers’ Gym, this friendly group workshop is the perfect place to hone your writing – and how to get the best out of feedback. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm Wednesday 23 April 
Quality writing time and excellent company! Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 3-5pm Thursday 24 April
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

Writing Magic Realism | 1pm-2.30pm Tuesday 6 May
From literary and genre fiction to poetry, film and TV, magic realism expresses a deeper truth to the everyday. It lets our themes and emotions take physical form, and allows the worlds we live in within our own minds to become real places in the worlds we create. Click here.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art. www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership at thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com

This week marks the final episode in the current series of the Writers’ Gym podcast –and the first time in several years my knee injury flared up to the extent that I couldn’t walk for a day.

I’m absolutely fine now. Without the need for trigger warnings, I’ll only go as far as saying my patella is back on its tracking as magically as (though with much less drama than) it left. By the time I was running Coffee & Creativity at Olympic Studios on Friday morning (above), even I wouldn’t have known anything had been wrong the previous day.

Without being able to put any weight on my right leg whatsoever, I did have the sense to put myself on the sofa next to one of the beautiful, beloved and too-long-unpurchased spiral notebooks I panic/grief-bought from WHSmith last weekend. Writing was anaesthetic. It took me out of my body and into my head. I let myself write without knowing where it was going, something I don’t always make time for in my week let alone my day. In other words, I let myself play my objective.

After all, writing is my why. It’s why I earn money and why I make time. I want to write. I want to be the writer I am. Yet so often I play the obstacle – “but there’s so much else I should be doing” – rather than the objective.

All of which is why the timing of Kim Newman’s interview on the Writers’ Gym podcast means so much to me.

Kim plays his objective.

When I direct beginner actors in improvisations, and when I was a beginner actor, one of the most common exercises has always been going for a walk. We ‘magic if’ ourselves into the given circumstances of a place we know, with an objective of somewhere we’re trying to get to. When the director tells beginner actors they’re late, and it’s started to rain, there’s often one who stops in their tracks. They hold out their palm skyward, and peer up into (presumably) the very drops they want to avoid.

We wouldn’t do that in the street, yet in our own minds we’ll so often play the obstacle – literal or metaphorical rain – over the objective of where they want to get to, as unsoaked as possible.

Talking to Kim, I hear what it’s like for a writer to truly know only they can do the writing they can do. Of course, we all know it logically. Yet so many of us notice too late when our energies get diverted from artist to critic: questioning whether our idea is “good” rather than finishing it and making it better, or analysing whether the reason we didn’t write today was a “real excuse” or not. Peering up into the rain, rather than walking with strengthened focus towards where we want to go.

There was a time I would have texted and doomscrolled all day on that sofa. I would have flexed my knee endlessly to check if it still hurt. I would have punished myself in all the ways I could; played the obstacles for all they were worth.

This time, I wrote.

I’m not saying it’s why my knee fixed itself faster than I expected. I hope I don’t get to prove to myself I’ve learnt my lesson when injuries or illnesses are worse. But I do want to promise myself I’ll do what Kim does: allow myself to prioritise being the writer I am. Playing my objective. Because it isn’t up to the given circumstances to resolve themselves. It’s up to me to do what I can, within them.

Come and Write This Week

(If you’re not in the UK, find your timezone here.)

On this week’s episode of The Writers’ Gym podcast:

The Writing Room | 11am-1pm Monday 7 April
Free for everyone on my mailing list (if you’re reading this, that’s you!). No expectations, no readings, just an open chat box and ten minutes’ (totally optional) chat together at the end. Click here.

Coffee & Creativity | 1-2.30pm Wednesday 9 April
Quality writing time and excellent company! Grab a coffee and have a mid-week chat, a write and then another chat with your fellow creatives. Free for members: type your discount code where indicated. Click here.

Writing Room EXTRA | 3-5pm Thursday 10 April
Members only: please check Voxer messages.

The Writers’ Gym is part of Rachel Knightley Coaching: creative confidence for life, work and art. www.rachelknightley.com

You don’t have to be a member to join a Writers’ Gym session: visit here. But if you’d like to access our weekly programme for free, and receive 30% off all our other events, ask about membership at thewritersgym@rachelknightley.com